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Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What Parts of BDSM Interest You? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self.

In the simplest of ways to label me, I’m a switch.  But, as with any label that comes with MANY nuances. It’s for this reason that I generally dislike the use of labels.

In my primary relationship, I identify as a slave.  We have been in an M/s relationship since August of 2009, however we’ve been married since October 2000.
If I was to say I’m a “no limit” slave as most would expect me to say, that would be wrong.  I have never been expected to give over all of my decision-making, to have no limits, etc.  However, I do believe if my Master expected that of me (which he does not) that I would be willing and able to do so.

Outside of my primary relationship is where the “switchiness” comes into play.  I’m VERY much a masochist and enjoy being on the receiving end of pain.  My masochism is something that doesn’t play a huge role in my M/s relationship so I primarily fulfill that need through other play partners. I can also identify as a bottom or even submissive, dependent on play style and partner. On the flip side of the coin I can also identify as sadist, Top or Dominant. I have a growing fondness of sissy boys and CBT.  I do play with women too – and that style of play can range from sensual to sadistic.

On a side note: I also identify as bisexual.  In my eyes, bisexual means I am capable of having relationships with either a man or a woman.  For me, this label is more than just sexual preference.  While my primary relationship is heterosexual, I believe I am fully capable of having a relationship with a women – and would love to find a woman who I find compatible to explore that with.

Other labels I use to describe myself include swinger and polyamourous.  And no, I don’t use these terms interchangeably like some tend to do.  Although, a recently coined term I find most suitable would be polyfuckery… I like it! Define it however you choose!



Posted: June 24, 2010 in Gorean, Meanings, Submission

The slave sits upon their heels with their back and shoulders straight, chest out, belly in, and head up, with eyes averted slightly downcast.

The slaves thighs are open, widely spread and hands rest upon their thighs palms downward (upward for their owner or someone special at times).

“Nadu” come from the Gorean word for “kneel” and it is also called the position of a pleasure slave.
Sometimes wrists are crossed in front as though for binding.

With regard to upward palms, among slaves, this is a common way of signaling need, helplessness, and a desire to please.

(Taken from Lara Dune)


On June 23rd, i was taught “Nadu” (among other things) by a highly respected friend and mentor.
This night, my life as a slave changed.  Thank you kind Sir.

The Meaning of a Name

Posted: May 12, 2010 in Meanings


a melodic configuration or series of chords marking the end of a phrase, section, or piece of music

a drumline piece played in a parading marching band between or in place of full-band pieces


abundant blessings from above

These names, by themselves, might not mean much to the average person.
But to me, and those I play with it can be the difference in my ability to hit subspace or not.

I’m a drummer, well a percussionist would be the more correct term.  I have been since I was 13 years old.  The rythmn of a song, or even a thunderstorm can leave a permanent mark on my soul.  I find structure among chaos, simply by finding the rythmn.

I quickly realized how much this would impact my play “style.” I can remember the very first time I met Him, for these purposes we will call Him “T”.  I was spellbound by watching and listening to his Florentine flogging – it was simply a demonstration, but I needed nothing more to realize how much I wanted to play with Him.  I think I fell in love with the rythmn before I even had a chance to truly know Him.  But that didn’t matter to me at that point.  I remember parting ways from that monthly meeting a changed person.